I don’t agree with some of his conclusions, like the one below, for instance. But this one I do agree with.

14 Excellent Parenting Tips From Louis CK

It’s hard having kids because it’s boring.

On teaching:  Now, implementing it all of the time is a bit tricky… Right there, I think, he is talking to himself. I’d be talking to myself in this same situation. I am talking to myself all of the time anyway, and that is exactly what I usually say. To myself.

14 Excellent Parenting Tips From Louis CK.

Louis CK on Boredom.

14 Excellent Parenting Tips From Louis CK.

Happy Chinese New Year!

February 1, 2014

2014 - The Year of Horse

2014 – The Year of Horse

Yesterday, we were having an ordinary family supper, admittedly, with a little wine. Nothing out of our usual routine. It was only Alina(10) with us, as Eva(12) went to a sleepover at Jades. Tim raised his glass and said “Cheers!”. We all cheered and went on about our supper, when Alina solemnly said: “Might I suggest that we celebrate a Chinese New Year today”… I adore this little girl! She can be so unexpectedly funny sometimes 🙂

Mind you, she is not that little any more!

It is such a joy – to watch your own child grow. And every time it comes to my attention, I feel so happy that I am lucky enough to have it. We often take it for granted, my dear friends 🙂 … Although yes, sometimes, very rarely, they can be a pain in the arse!

So, Nappy Chinese New Year of the Wooden Horse!

Wooden horse

Wooden Horse


January 7, 2010

There must be some microclimate in this little paradise of ours, because, while the country is suffering under the whole couple of inches of snow, at least according to the news and rumors, all our toy-town on a hill has is the cute patchy pads of snow on some roofs…  

Nevertheless, we also, as the most of the UK, are blessed with the cancellation of the usual legalised slavery, and the holidays go on.  

Living on the High Street, especially at Summer, when the door of the shop is open during the day, makes our household very open. We almost literally live on the street, with the noises, smells and people entering our lives liberally. For that reason, at Winter, separating ourselves by two doors and the front room from the street, we feel like being enclosed in a warm bubble of cozyness.  

The girls, enjoying being out of school on a day when they normally would be “structurised”, are playing solitaire in the kitchen. The “solitaire for two”. When I come in, Alina is alone, on the chair, bending over, moving the cards on the table, while chewing on something. Upon hearing me, she quickly stands up and assumes the kind of expression, which sais out loud: “I have just done something, which I don’t want you to know about, and now I am pretending that I’ve done nothing, don’t look THAT way”. I jump to her, grab her, and start kissing her all over, saying: “WHAT were you doing, eh?” She giggles, saying, naturally, “Nothing! I’ve been doing nothing!”  

Eva enters through the bathroom door. Stands on her chair. Looks at the cards. At a glance, assessing the picture, she sais calmly: “Ah! Alina has been cheating with the cards. A lot.” “I have,” – is the straightforward answer.  

Girls playing solitaire

"You've been cheating!"

Boy in the Dunes

July 27, 2009

Yesterday Jee Yeon and I with the kids spent part of the afternoon at Karen and Peter’s under the pretext to look at the chickens. Kids had a great time in the swimming pool, while we chatted on a very Mediterranean looking terrace, with the flag-stoned court and huge views over the valley.

The Mediterranean feel was accentuated by eating a watermelon, the remnants of which we fed to the chickens. They weren’t terribly impressed with that. The bread  crusts went down much better.

Children were like little puppies, so sweet and lovable, with Ollie transcending into the stage of a touch older and danglier one. Jee Yeon keeps saying, how she doesn’t want them to grow up. This Sunday we went for a walk in a Fairlight Country Park (I think on the other end of the park they call it Hastings Country Park). We were walking along the path, and the four of them went in an indian file, brandishing sticks and chanting some made up song. Jee Yeon followed, then I. She said: “Oh, They are so cute! I don’t want them to grow up! Of course, Jiang Mi and Eva can produce one (child) each…” To which I said in a commanding tone “Children, as soon as you grow up, you have to quickly make some babies, so that Jee Yeon and I don’t get bored!” They ignored us on the account of being busy.

Two years ago I painted a portrait of Ollie, Peter and Karen’s son, and forgot to take a photo of it. Karen e-mailed it to me today.

Portrait of Ollie Spencer jumping from the dune on Camber Sands.

Ollie Spencer

I asked Karen, if she’d help me out with my “corporate identity”, as I am really struggling. The logo, the brochure, the stationery – all is in odd bits and not particularly attractive pieces. I need to bring it all together somehow, but am suffering from lack of vision in this matter. I need a professional!!! Which is Karen Wilks. One of my recent mental agendas is appreciation. Like sticking my head a little out of a family nut shell and having a look around. And having had a little look around, finding all these wonderful people doing wonderful things, as well as coping with the madness of the contemporary life style, which includes:- barring one-self and one’s children from the abundance of the harmful substances being shoved at one from all directions, while with the other hand pushing the unnecessary and/or harmful stuff at the others;- finding the best possible way to bring up and educate one’s children out of a multitude of old and proven harmful or dubious new recipes;- packing, buying, unpacking, recycling by means of packing into other packaging, or throwing out as is various unnecessary stuff;- making sure that the goods and money move in a continuous rigorous flow for the survival of our civilization;- and so on…Yes… I am learning to appreciate us, people.