Uneasy feelings and what to do with them

I had this uneasy feeling again and decided to do something constructive about it.

Step one: Identify what caused that feeling.

To help with that, think back to the time when it first appeared. Then, think what exactly caused it – someone’s remark, or action, or some event. Then, think what it made you feel like, or what negative thought that thing evoked in you.

Step two: Breath deliberately.

Concentrate on getting your body, especially brain, oxygenated (but not hyperventilated!)

Step three: Take action.

Whatever that event or thought was, take action to minimise the impact of it. If it’s an event with possible negative consequences, think how you can reduce the harm and take steps to do it. If it is a thought which caused you grief, analyse what makes it negative and think how you can turn it into a positive thought.

Step four: Let go.

Now, decide whether the action you took is all you can do at the moment. If the answer is positive, let go of the whole thing and go do something else. If the answer is negative, repeat steps 1-4.

Q: How do I know if what I did is enough?

A: You’ll know because the uneasy feeling is gone.

It worked!

Just thought that sometimes people live with those uneasy feelings lingering for years!..

Meaning of a dream revealed

All of a sudden a meaning of a dream I had a while ago dawned on me.

In a dream, I am being one of the two high-ranking officers, who are being publicly executed for the atrocities of the war. The mob is angry. We are guilty.

My companion is higher in rank than me and he is viewed as the main villain. He is the first to be executed. The method is rather morbid. One’s arms and legs chopped off at the knees and elbows, after which one has to move along the parallel bars (like in gymnastics) on the stumps of his arms.

I am witnessing my comrade as he is about to be executed. His face shows no fear, no resentment, no repentance, just pure anger and defiance. I admire his courage, as he, with his limbs severed, moves swiftly along the parallel bars. The expression of his face is very strong. I admire his strength, and gather my own strength now, as I am to go through the same ordeal. His example gives me encouragement that I also can do that, although I feel much weaker…

And so, suddenly I see what that dream means. It reflects to me, that I view myself as the one not belonging to the masses, yet not the leader. I am hesitant to act, fearing pain and danger, and need to see that someone has done that same thing before me. I need a reassurance that I can do it, whatever that is.

It’s funny how some dreams stay in your consciousness for a while and reveal their meaning to you layer by layer.

One of the most powerful inspiring TED talks

Dreams and symbolism.

I had a curious dream

I was on a quest. I had to find a secret/treasure/scroll. Some sort of token/object and it was important.
It was a bit like a coputer game because on my way there, at places, I felt like I was gliding through the air. The way you do when you play a computer game. On my quest, I went through varied terraine. A voice, or a thought was guiding me. Like this:

- You will have to go through a forest, -
And I’d be gliding through some woody area

- You’ll come out of the forest and see an open field, -
And I’d be in the open

- You’ll need to cross the river… etc

The trip part (and the rest, actually) was happening very quickly. And there I was, in the pergola alley covered with vine and The Secret was placed in a sort of altar at the end of it. I flue to it. It was here within my reach, somewhere at the eye level or a little higher. At the same time, a person appeared a few paces behind me on the path. He was a very-very old man with long white beard and white clothes, rather bend over. He said, or expressed in some way, that he was the keeper of The Secret, and he was waiting for a long time for someone to come and get it. He was long due to die, but couldn’t because of The Secret. And now, that I am here, he can finally die. And the objetct/secret thing floated down into my hand. And he died.

And I became the keeper of the secret. A feeling of burden poped into my mind. Having to grow old, like that
old man, being attached to that object, iprisonned really, all alone. Then it faded. I became two little children, (or perhaps I got two little children as well as me, because the perseption of me as such became faded or more of an observer, not the action man. By the way, I am almost always more of a male than a female in my dreams), THEY were the keepers now. They play, and they compete, and argue, and play, and compete, possibly over the ownership of The secret. And that’s the end of the dream.

The emotional state of the dream at the end of it is of lively peace and dynamic serenity… As if life is good -challenging enough, comfortable enough, moving on in the right direction.

Compassionate leadership TED talk. Google Rocks!

Wonderful TED talk on leadership. New type of leadership on the example of Google company. This is a great brief and concise instruction manual on how to bring up new type of leaders or become one with least effort and most effectively! Very inspiring.